Career Life Success

Intent vs Impact. 5 Ways to Match Your Intent with Your Desired Impact

Have you ever received feedback that meant something to you?  Feedback that was constructive? Feedback that has changed your approach and made you a better person?

Recently, we completed a leadership development workshop with a client and his direct reports.  We used a powerful 360 assessment tool called Leadership Impact.  Each participperformance reviewant received feedback on their leadership effectiveness with a set of recommended strategies that would make them better leaders. Some were quite surprised by the feedback, some were not.  All were very appreciative of the opportunity to pause and think about how they are viewed by their peers, their bosses and their direct reports.

In my experience, most leaders generally have good intentions.  They want to grow their business, develop their people, build a team and achieve higher margins.  How leaders behave, the actions they take, what they say or do makes a difference on the impact that they want to have. This impact may or may not reflect their positive intentions.

How can you ensure that your intention matches your impact?

1. Be very clear about your intent.  What is it exactly that you want to achieve?  Is it to motivate others to do better? Build stronger relationships? Defend your points?

2. How are you going to communicate your intent?  Are you going to send an email, pick up the phone or wait until you have a face to face meeting?  The more important the issue, the more real-time conversation you will want to have.

3. What message will match your intent?  If your intent is to motivate, you may want to use more encouraging language vs criticizing or nitpicking.  According to the research of Heaphy and Losada 2004, (The Role of Positivity & Connectivity in the Performance of Business Teams)  high performing teams provide positive feedback to each other in the ratio of 5.6 to 1 whereas low performing teams have an average of .36 to 1 with almost 3 negative comments to 1 positive comment with each other.

4. Deliver the message and ask for feedback.  Did your message reflect your intention?  In the example of motivating others, ask the recipient how your message was received.  Was it motivational or discouraging?  Ask how you could have better delivered your message.  Ask how the person felt after your conversation.

5. Practice.  Over time you will be more versed on how to match your intent and your impact.  Yes, there is a place for negative feedback, usually when one is in a downward spiral or about to hurt themselves.  Such conversations have an appropriate place and time.

Are you interested in learning about your impact on others?  Ever wondered why you are not achieving the results that you want or perhaps are unable to sustain high performance?  A trained peer coach or external executive coach can help interpret your assessment and help you change your leadership strategy to take your game to the next level.


The Power of Intention in Developing Your Career

family airplaneOne evening, I was pondering my next career move and thought it would be cool to take the kids on a trip to Europe the next year.  The idea grew on me and before I knew it, I entertained a string of “What If” possibilities for my career and my family.

What if we actually move to Europe for a couple of years? What if I take an international assignment in Europe?  Wouldn’t that be really nice?  The more I thought about it, the more attractive the idea became. I started thinking of what is possible: new experiences , new learning, meet new people and all the tangible and intangible benefits that my family and career could have.

That night, I did not sleep at all. I planned, strategized and got really excited about the possibilities.  This desire and intention continued to grow day by day, a seed was planted and it started to grow.  I shared the idea with my husband – he thought I was crazy.  I shared it with my trusted colleagues and a few months later, I was offered the job to lead human resources International – responsible for the regions outside the United States.

I cannot forget my boss’ words to me – you can live anywhere, as long as it is outside New Jersey (our headquarters). I narrowed our choices to London, Singapore and Brussels and eventually chose Brussels.  It is where our company’s European headquarters was located, a central location between Asia and the US and a more convenient time zone to connect globally.

My husband saw the possibilities and with his support, we were on a plane to Belgium a few months later.

The entire preparation and move was of course, complex and difficult, and we focused to get it done. I do not know if it was desire, focus, intention, God’s will, family support or a combination of all that made it happen.  The intent was strong enough to handle any hurdle or obstacle that came our way. If you find yourself wanting something more from your career, here are a few things to think about:

1. Think and Dream It – What is it that you really want?.  Visualize it and see the picture in your mind.  Stay with the dream.  If it is strong and coming from your heart, continue to think about what is possible.  Eventually your heart and mind will align and focus on the dream.

2. Speak It – Share it with your loved ones, your supportive colleagues, your mentors.  Speak your career aspirations to others, no matter how outrageous it may sound.  Ask for advice and listen.  Filter your listening to what is possible.

3. Work It – Take the first step to get closer to the goal. Ask around, pursue some leads. Take some phone calls.  Work on the details.  Work hard at it and do not give up.

Moving our family to Europe and back was not easy.  It was exhausting, the experience tested our resilience while we attended to the many details of the move, selling our home, moving our stuff to storage, giving away some items, settling down and going though the repatriation process after two years.  It was well worth it. It was one of the most enriching experiences for our family and my career on all fronts.

If you have the desire for a career shift, listen to that inner voice and work with a coach to make your career goals happen.


Defining Your Non-negotiables, Part 4: Is it about child care or is it about my job?

work life balanceAnother non-negotiable for high achieving women is ensuring that they have the best child care available when they go back to work.  This was the case for Lynda Kitamura, Chief Financial Officer.

When Lynda’s first born was 3 ½ months, her baby started sleeping well. Lynda brought in a nanny and felt comfortable that this arrangement would be good for her child. In the meantime, her company was introducing a new platform that was both exciting and challenging to her and she wanted to be part of this change.

Lynda was able to go back to work feeling entirely comfortable with her choice. It was not a burden to get back to work, and she did not feel any pressure making the decision; it was simply a case where her daughter started sleeping well at night and she found a terrific nanny.

She harbored no guilt, because she felt like she had  a choice and was not doing something wrong. It’s not that she did not have fears—fears like the children would prefer to be with their nanny or their father rather than her. But she kept her relationships with her children strong, and that fear did not materialize. In fact, her children fondly recall how fun it was to go to work with her on some weekends with their crayons and snacks.  In spite of this, she prepared herself for this possibility and was willing to accept the consequences if this happened. The preparation and acceptance of the consequences of her choices empowered her to proactively manage a tough situation.

To keep herself going, she focused on the good and acknowledges what she feels really bad about or could feel bad about. This keen awareness of her feelings guided her priorities – what she scheduled, how she spent her time, and she tried to avoid anything that would make her feel bad. For example, she did not miss a birthday or an important school event—this was part of her priorities.

Achieving this priority entailed careful planning and communication with her managers ahead of time. She feels fortunate to have had understanding managers throughout her career. It is important to be clear in communicating what you want to your manager: “This is a very important date and I need to be there.”  When she respectfully makes these requests, she found out that her managers are equally respectful.

Some working women fear speaking up for family or personal needs because it might reflect negatively on them. Based on Lynda’s experience, it is probably not going to be as bad as they think it will be. This is where she thinks parents feel guilt or suffer quietly. For Lynda, avoiding feeling bad is the balance, the compromise of balancing work and personal life.

Ask yourself questions like: Why am I doing this? Is it important? Is it healthy? Do I care about my children? Absolutely! Is this a reasonable request? Are they safe and cared for? And how much of this is me and my ego, vs are they truly going to be ok?

Could it be that those who feel really bad about working and unable to achieve balance, really do not want to work? Or are not happy with their work and they prefer to be at home? There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home, but it is really important to recognize the distinction – Is this something I’m really worried about for my child or is this something about myself?

Asking these tough questions help you get to the bottom of what’s really bothering you about being a working mom. Some working moms choose to blame the company, the government, the system, their boss. Taking honest ownership of how one feels about their children’s care and how much they love their job are the more important questions. Finding the appropriate care support system for your family eventually pays off. You will have peace of mind and can focus better on your work.

Being clear of her priorities is key to Lynda’s work life success.  She loves her job and gets fulfilled in her career.  She loves her family and her children’s growth and development is very important to her.  With her priorities and non-negotiables clearly set, Lynda found a way to make multiple priorities work.  Lynda is a high achieving woman.

Do you know a high achieving woman?  Describe what she is doing.


Define Your Non-negotiables Part 3: Career Flexibility

work life balanceWe have been discussing the importance of setting priorities and non-negotiables for work life success.  Having a set of priorities helps us make choices.  Being clear with our non-negotiables, free us from stress and indecision.  We realign our priorities as our lives and needs change.

An important non-negotiable for high achieving women is career flexibility.  This is the ability to be fully present at home when needed while having a career that supports your personal needs.

Georgia Smith, corporate executive and one of the women I interviewed for my forthcoming book – You Can Be It All, Secrets of High Achieving Women (current working title), was able to achieve career flexibility, working full time while raising her son.

Georgia always knew that she was going to be a working mom even before she got married.  Georgia and her husband discussed what they would be willing to do for each other’s career and where they will live.  While her husband was raised in the East Coast,USA, his preference is to work and live in the West Coast. They knew that they may have to pass up advancement opportunities by making this decision.  Georgia did not regret this decision. She knew that she would forego  making a lot more money and would take longer to get to executive ranks, but it was more important to her that she felt good about the positive contribution that she was making at work, still made good money and lived comfortably close to her extended family.  The ego was probably the only thing impacted by these non-negotiables and this was not an issue with her.

When she had her son, she had the classic struggle of all working women: “How can I be a full-time mom and a full-time professional and give everything needed to both, without short changing either?”.  Her husband traveled most of the time, so balancing childcare and her own career demands rested primarily on her.  She was fortunate to be able to explore different roles within a company that recognized her skills and potential.  When she  wanted to have flexible hours, she decided to stay in the same company and changed  to field work.

Georgia’s non negotiable is career flexibility. While her son was young, she benefited from a flexible schedule on the road as a Sales Account Manager. She had the ability to be in the field and would take the time to watch her son’s sporting events.  As her son moved to high school, she decided to finish her college education.  They had dinner together every night to catch up on their day and studied together after dinner.  As her son moved on to college she shifted to a regional role and was able to do more travel.

She considers herself fortunate to be have a career that met her personal needs and did not give anybody less than they deserved.  Her son is now an accomplished lawyer with his own family and never felt short-changed having a full-time working mom.  He remembers that she was with him for all the important moments in his life.  

Georgia’s non-negotiable, career flexibility, enabled her to be the best mom that she can be while achieving career success.  Georgia is a high achieving woman.  Do you know a high achieving woman?  What is she doing?  What is your non-negotiable and how has it served your needs?


Define Your Non-negotiables, Align Your Priorities Part 2

woman working w familyA couple of months ago, I blogged about the importance of defining your priorities and aligning them with your non-negotiables to achieve work life success.  At that time, I was building my own business and set my priorities as: God, Self, Business, Husband, Children in this order.

These priorities helped me focus on my business launch and I’m very pleased with my results.  Since I placed myself as Second, I was able to schedule daily hot yoga on my calendar and attended this religiously about 5 times a week on average.  Not bad, am very happy with the results.  I learned more about eating heathy, tried to get in more sleep, scheduled girlfriend time and vacation time . I was able to maintain my weight loss and generally feel very good and healthy.

I told my husband that he was in fourth place and he didn’t seem to mind. He likes to do his own thing, so we went about living our lives doing our own thing.  Our children are all young adults with full lives living in the East Coast.  We talked weekly over skype or text almost daily, so I feel I am very involved in their lives despite the distance.

While I am very pleased with the results of my priorities, life evolves and happens.  Our eldest daughter got a job here in Silicon Valley and together with her husband, moved in with us.  We are proud expectant grandparents for our very first grandchild in December.  I also sensed that my husband and I no longer spend good quality time together.

I realize it is time to realign my priorities with my non-negotiables!.  So I am flipping Business and Husband.  I think I”ll learn how to play golf.  I’m still keeping God and Self in the same position and I have a strong suspicion that come December, Grandchild will take over the top slot.

Aligning your priorities and your non-negotiables with what you want to have in your life is such a liberating thing to do.  It’s amazing to see how the results become exactly what you ask for.  The good news is we can shift them, observe and see if these priorities enable us to live our ideal lives.

What are your priorities? Are you satisfied with how these results are showing up in your life? Feel free to reorder and change them as your situation changes.

7 Tips on How to Hire a Career or Business Coach

woman executiving talkingI’m inspired by a potential client who I met for coffee the other day.  She is planning her transition from corporate into something new and exciting, where she can live her passion and use her natural talents and creativity.  At the same time, she is scared and wisely seeking a partner coach for this important change in her life.

She asked some very thoughtful questions and I could sense that she is handling her career change purposefully.  She asked me about my own life and career and was very interested in the new opportunities that I’ve been able to create in my post corporate life.  She took notes and we shared books that we both found helpful.  I would be delighted to be chosen as her coach, am also just as delighted to have met her.  She is going about her transition in a very thoughtful way, very much how she lived her life – raised two boys as a single mother, built a successful career and completed graduate school later in life.  I am confident that her decision, whatever it will be, will turn out to be the very best for her.  I also know that no matter what, we will continue to stay in touch.

You may be deciding to hire a business or career coach but are unsure on where to start. Here are 7 tips on how to hire the very best coach for you.

1.Research on the coach’s background, experiences and credentials prior to your meeting.  Coaches have a diverse range of expertise and niches, find one who interests you.

2. Speak to people who were coached by your potential coach.  In addition to references, speak to mutual friends or acquaintances who know them well and learn more about them.

3. Request an information or complimentary session. Most coaches offer this to enable you to experience their coaching style.

4. Read their blogs, tweets and website.  Does their point of view interest or challenge you?  Is coaching a hobby or is this their profession? Working with a professionally trained coach makes a difference.

5. Determine if you and the coach can genuinely like each other.  Will you enjoy having the occasional lunch or coffee with them?  You don’t have to be best friends, but most coaching relationships are easy and enjoyable.  They can even turn into deep and lasting friendships.

6. Do you respect their point of view enough to trust them and have faith in what they are saying?

7. Is he or she capable of being honest and can hold you accountable even if the truth may sometimes hurt.  You do not want a coach who will just tell you what you like to hear.  You want a coach who would stretch you and make a difference.

Through the years, I’ve benefited greatly from my coaches’ presence and wisdom.  We continue to be in touch and our relationships turned into friendships or business partnerships.  Take your time in choosing the right coach for you.  Your coach will make a difference in the change you are experiencing and will also have a profound impact on your life.

Doubting The Career Path You’re On? 5 Immediate Things You Can Do.

worried career woman

I am working with a very smart & thoughtful client who has known for some time that her current role was no longer working for her. Initially, we worked on her adjustment to the new company and enhancing her skills.  As time moved on, she sensed that things are still not working for her.  She realized that it is what she is doing that no longer ignites her.  She sent me this note last Friday and below is my response:


Dear Liza,

Within the next 6 months I’d like to cut back to part-time where I am now so I have the flexibility to devote time to new pursuits.

What I’d like to talk to you about at our next meeting are:

  • To make sure I’m making this move for the right reasons (not just to get away from a specific situation that’s not satisfying)
  • What kinds of questions should I be asking myself?
  • What else would you suggest I think about when facing a major transition like this?

If you find yourself in a similar situation, there are 5 immediate things that you can do to forward your career discovery.  I sent this response to my client to think about prior to our meeting,

1. Make a list of what you like and do not like about your current career.  Note that I mentioned career, not job.  You can always find another job.  You want to discern if it is the company, the people, your job or it’s really your career path that no longer suits you.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with changing careers; people do it all the time.  You want to be thoughtful in what’s next for you.

2. Suggest you read: Finding Your North Star by Martha Beck or any book by her.  She has a lot of thoughtful insights, assessments and information for those who are not living their ideal path and plenty of suggestions to find it.  I love her style.  There are many books available on careers, find one that interests you.

3. Create a Vision Board.  Block 2-3 hours of uninterrupted time one weekend and gather all the magazines you can find at home.  You can also set up a Pinterest Account and label it “My Ideal Life”.  Choose pictures that appeal to you that you want in your life.  Don’t judge yourself, observe what comes up.

4. Complete a Career Assessment – If you are interested in a career assessment, I can direct you to one that I really like to use.  You pay the fee directly to the testing site.  They will send you a report that we can review together or you can speak directly to one of their consultants.

5. Meet Your Future Self.  Think of what you’d like to have in your life 10-20 years from now.  Imagine meeting your future self, what do you see?  What will she say when you ask her, how has the past 20 years been for you?   This usually helps guide you in your journey.

My client was very appreciative of these suggestions; she said it was exactly what she needed.  Do you have suggestions that worked for you?  Feel free to share or comment.

My Husband is a STUD. 7 Tips to Make Your Career Transition Smooth


husband movingI read that relocation is one of the top stressful changes one could experience, third to death of a loved one and loss of a job.  I’ve mentioned before that we moved 17 times, across 3 continents in our 30 plus years of marriage.  Every transition is a family decision.  We discussed and agreed on the merits of the move, and did not look back.

It was not easy, especially with children in school, but my husband made it easy. While I adjusted to the new job, Danny looked for an ideal home location, researched schools, oversaw the movers and transacted the sale or purchase of our homes.  He has very good instincts in choosing locations and never settles until he has found the perfect home that met most of our needs.  We handled all our transitions smoothly and I did not worry, until I accepted an expat assignment in Belgium.

In my new role, I was responsible for the regions outside the US and knew that I’d be traveling extensively.  Once our daughter was happily settled in international school and we were all moved in, I was concerned about how Danny would adjust to a new life in a strange country.  Although we tried really hard to learn French, it is not an easy language for us.  My concerns quietly nagged me until I read about the STUDS.

On a business trip, I came across an interesting airline magazine article about this group called the STUDS – Spouses Trailing Under Duress Successfully.   They are husbands of expat wives hanging out together supporting each other through their transition in Belgium.  I got so excited about the possibility of Danny meeting new friends. Typical guy, he did not seem that excited nor did he contact them.

Browsing through their website, I saw that they had a biking and golf group.  I sent a note to the email address pretending I was Danny and he very quickly invited me to play golf the very next day. Danny had a great time! He enjoyed their company so much; they met for golf every day from Monday to Friday.  Occasionally they would invite the wives and organized wine tasting events, trips or picnics and I always looked forward to these events.  I met equally busy and high achieving expat women who were just as excited to have some kind of a social life in a foreign country.  The STUDS are fun-loving, very helpful husbands from all over the world.  They exchanged recipes, compared dry cleaning prices and commiserated on common experiences about living in a foreign country.  They made our expat experience delightful.

You may find yourself in the midst of a career move with a trailing husband/partner and children.  They may not be as eager and excited about your move, or they may be actively complaining about each strange new experience.   As the initiator of the move, you feel responsible, guilty, sometimes helpless about their adjustment.  Here are 7 tips to get your family happily settled in a new location.

  1.  Honest Talk – Before accepting the new role, discuss the pros and cons of the move with your spouse/partner.  We had spreadsheets, lists, metrics to aid us in the decision.  As we got better at this, we also asked each other how we felt.  I learned to read Danny’s body language and used this as cue.  He may say yes to a move, but I sensed his body and facial expressions said otherwise.  Once you are aligned, and only when you are aligned, call a family meeting.
  2. Have a Family Meeting – discuss the advantage of the move for your family, career and each member of your family.  Hear the concerns from each member and together work on a plan to resolve their concerns.
  3. Take advantage of all that your company or new town offers: attend cross cultural training, language lessons, employee assistance programs and orientation.  Check local listings for neighborhood meet ups.
  4. Invite family and friends over for a visit. Most will say yes, but only a few will actually make it.  It’s ok to cast a wide invitation and schedule them based on your availability.  Likewise, book your vacation back home so you have something to look forward to.
  5. Explore and Discover.  It’s ok to prolong your tourist status indefinitely. Seek groups that have similar interests as yours.  Break up the empty calendar by booking your leisure time with discovery appointments. Book tickets to his favorite games, restaurants, art shows or parks.  Sign him up at the local basketball, running, cycling or golf group.  Join a dancing or painting class together.  Actively explore your new location together and learn something new.
  6. Encourage him to establish a daily routine. Danny kept himself busy by managing our finances, household, post office – yes, this is a big deal in Belgium, licenses – another big deal and all items required to settle down in our new home.  He had his own home office space equipped with a TV, PC, printer and all his files.
  7. Proactive Therapy. At the end of the day, realize that you cannot truly make someone else happy.  Your spouse/partner needs to sincerely want to make your new location work for your entire family.  I booked my family including myself to proactive therapy sessions before the move.  I prepared the kids for what therapy would look like and sent them in one by one to see the therapist.  After their meeting, I curiously asked how it went and all they said was – “its confidential Mom”.  If you sense resistance, passive or otherwise, some proactive therapy could help.

Career relocation can be tough.  It can also be one of the most rewarding and broadening learning experience for you and your family. Are you considering a career relocation or have experienced one?  Feel free to share what helped.


Get Hooked. Four Ways to Sustain Your Peak Performance

meditation pose 4I am working with a client on her goals for the next 12 mos.  Her top priority is to grow her business to the next level.  While she realizes that personal health and fitness are critical priorities, she can’t see how she can fit this into her already overbooked schedule.  She is not alone, many of us allow our own health and fitness slip in favor of more important work and family commitments.

The reality is, no matter how important our business and career commitments are, we are only able to sustain peak performance if we are in top shape mentally and physically.  Despite all the fitness and health reminders everywhere, it is still very difficult for us to get hooked into a program that doesn’t seem like a burden to our overflowing schedules.

Usually a trigger event causes us to change our lifestyle.  It could be the latest blood test results, how we look, our weight, or some comment that got us.  Whatever the trigger, we find ourselves exploring an activity that we hope will last and become our daily routine.

How do you get hooked to a regular health & fitness program?

1. Find something that you really like.  My daughter got hooked into running, my brother into biking, and a female colleague into kickboxing.  I got hooked into Bikram yoga, 90 minutes of hatha yoga in 105 degrees temperature.  It’s been 3 years since my first hot yoga class.  It is not easy, most especially during summer. But I feel GREAT, so I keep going back and eventually my practice evolved to 5 times a week.  I feel my day is not complete without my yoga practice.  I got hooked.

2. Don’t think.  During the early days, it took all my will power to get myself into class.  I remember my boss advising me: don’t think, just go.  Once we think of all the reasons why we should or should not go, we have already slouched in our couch.  Some sleep in their workout clothes, I have all my items in my gym bag the night before so laziness does not creep in.  Anticipate and remove barriers that may get in your way.

3. Do it every day for the next 30 days.  If you want to get hooked, you need to make your workout a habit, a part of your daily routine.  If you can extend your daily practice to 90 days, there is a higher chance of automating your practice.  After 3 mos on the program, I purchased an annual membership.  This got me motivated to get hooked.

4. Get involved in your community.  Find friends who like the same activity and support each other.  Eventually my yoga studio became my community, I got to know other yogis and yoginis and we support each other in our practice.  This makes the experience more fulfilling,

If you are serious about being at the top of your game and sustaining it, I invite you to consider creating an automated health and fitness plan that is part of your daily life , outside your “to do” list.

Do you want to get hooked into a regular health and fitness plan?  Start by putting yourself towards the top of your priority list and experiment with these suggestions.  Share know how it goes.


From Corporate Refugee to Renewed Leader. Make the Most of your Transition.

thinking woman waterTwo years ago I met Diane at a conference.  We quickly developed a mutual respect for each other and a friendship that led to a productive coaching relationship.

Entrepreneurial, bursting with business ideas, extremely smart, logical and analytical, Diane came to our coaching sessions with new, promising ideas about how she would establish her new business.  At each coaching session, she had a new idea and abandoned the previous one.  Eventually, I saw a pattern: develop a new idea, see barriers, abandon the idea, start something else.  There is nothing wrong with trying new ideas, but I sensed Diane was getting frustrated.  She was stuck.  Something blocked her from taking her business to the next level.

We also worked on healing from her previous corporate role along with managing her emotions and thoughts about being a new entrepreneur.  Diane, like many others, is a corporate refugee.  While she knew it was time for her to leave her company, she resented being downsized.  She cherished her freedom to build her own business, but was anxious that it was taking longer than expected.  An introvert, she did not like to sell and market herself.  She received good referral work, but it was not the kind that she enjoyed.  Her confidence was slowly eroding and she started to doubt her financial security.

Things were also happening internally in Diane’s transition and transformation.  The first year of our executive coaching was about healing and providing support to rebuild her confidence.  After about a year, I felt it was time to challenge her and invited her to come to my place for a visioning retreat.  While enjoying the lovely Monterey Beach, we worked on her vision for her next chapter of her life.  In between walks by the ocean, chats and nourishing food, we also worked on her values.  An overachiever, Diane not only identified her values; she also correlated and weighted them to ensure her choices were numerically sound.  We let that conversation rest as we drove along Pebble Beach to enjoy the Pacific coast.

After reviewing her list, I noticed there was one item missing.  Financial security wasn’t listed despite the numerous conversations we had on the topic.  When I brought this up,  she immediately acknowledged that she would add this as one of her top values.  Financial security was her hidden and unacknowledged value and identifying it unlocked a part of her that blocked her from achieving her ideal life.  Diane felt really good about our retreat and committed to finding projects that expressed all her values.

Before long, things started to move really fast for Diane.  Although she was financially astute, she sought the advice of a financial planner.  He validated what she already knew.  She made good long-term investments but she would do even better if she found another executive role to fill her short-term financial needs.  Diane’s corporate refugee healing accelerated with this news — to the point that she contacted former business associates about her availability for full-time work.

Diane’s transition was getting close to a happy ending. I was not surprised when she told me that she was being considered as a top candidate for a company she left 10 years ago.  She accepted their offer and was so excited to go back to work again.

I have no doubt that Diane’s new chapter is full of promise.  Her healing as a corporate refugee and deeper awareness of herself guided her next steps. She is starting a new chapter in her life renewed with a deep sense of peace and happiness.

I am so glad Diane did not just jump to her next job and instead decided to work on her transition.  Transitions are periods of discovery and shifts which can make us uncomfortable.  Rather than look inward, it is easier to ignore how we feel and jump back to the familiar.  If you are in transition, I encourage you to look within and rediscover yourself.

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Why Hire a coach?

Top Reasons Coaches are Engaged:

(HBR Jan 2009)

    • Develop high potentials or facilitate transition: 48%
    • Act as a sounding board: 26%
    • Address derailing behavior: 12%